6 Secrets of a Really Happy Couple

Don't you agree that it's always easy to fall in love than to remain in love and keep the relationship going.

When reality bites and you get to see each others' worst selves, you and your honey often clash, argue, fight some more, make up, and the cycle goes on and on until you see yourselves getting fed up with the same routine. However, here are some secrets to remember to keep you and your hubby happily together hopefully... for eternity. Keep on reading.

1. Be the last to get mad. Of course, keeping your cool despite a heated argument is the hardest thing to do. Our natural instinct would have us protect ourselves from accusations. Our wounded pride would have us sting back, and our defensive selves are most ready to get even. The last thing we are most likely to do is to accept that in whatever frustrating situation we get ourselves into, we are also partly to be blamed. This may be but a cliche but "It always takes two to Tango."

Also, when we are at the peak of our anger, we always say things that we actually don't mean. The next time you find yourselves about to burst, try to remember the wonderful things your honey has done for you. At times, when we are upset or frustrated, we already have a twisted and impartial view of things. What seems to a "little trifle thing" can turn out to be a silent time bomb ready to explode...only if you let your emotions knock your senses down. Talk to your honey when you already have cooled down and once you do choose your words. Instead of saying "I am upset with you," which immediately pinpoints the wrong of the other blocking what could be an enlightening conversation, "I am upset with what had happened." Be upset with the situation not with your significant other.

2. Talk to each other
We often wonder "Why is she/he so dense?" It's easy to presume that our partner already knows what we want or what we expect. However, our partners are not mind readers. We ourselves can't tell what exactly our partner wants from us. We don't have the capacity to read minds. Therefore, it's important to have some time to talk with our partners. But of course, keep a lighthearted tone and not a highly combative one. You can keep a slam book of you and your partner's thoughts, ideas, fears, dreams, aspirations, etc, which you will be writing together and filling in together.

3. Be silly together.
Laughter makes us young and worry-free. You and your partner can kid around or amuse yourselves if you have to. When you and your partner find it easy to laugh about your foibles or weaknesses, then your relationship has surely reached a deeper level of intimacy. The thing here is that don't take yourselves too seriously at all times. Mind you...the wrinkles.

4. Once in a while, why not you and your partner try out a new activity to engage in? You need not spend a lot just to have a perfect date. The simplest activities you do together are often the most unforgettable. If you are into extreme sports, traveling, working out, bungee jumping, snorkeling or whatever it is that you two find fun and interesting, then go for it. It's not all work and all play either. Remember the yin and yang of life.

5. Give each others' space to breathe and a space to grow. Respect each others' privacy and each others' needs. I think this is one of the most important thing to do in order to keep a healthy relationship. Each of us needs some breathing ground to grow and learn individually, which we can also share with our significant other.

6. Last but not the least, have some spiritual time together. I strongly believe in this, "Unless the Lord builds his house, the builders' effort are all in vain." Take time to breathe, dream, and pray together.